When I is replaced by we, even illness becomes wellness.

No matter when it happens, receiving the news of a debilitating or terminal illness is a shock. It sets in motion an irreversible need for lifestyle changes and a shift in mental paradigm. Loving support will never be more necessary or appreciated and it is often a catalyst for a new level of closeness in your relationship.

Your loved one will need to express feelings of sadness, anger, disbelief, fear and loneliness. Prepare yourself to listen and acknowledge their feelings. By accepting them as they are, you give them dignity. Maintain contact and let them know they’re still an important part of your world. Help them to avoid isolation by adapting social activities to their needs. Find out their best time of day to visit or take them out when they’re feeling up to it. Whether it is a direct family member, friend or acquaintance, it is helpful to let them, and their family know you will stand beside them through the times ahead. It is important to acknowledge there is no formula for this support and that people need time to deal with pain. Approach your situation with sensitivity, ready to respond to both emotional and practical needs.

Finding the right words

Don’t change the dynamics of your relationship. Speak to them as you usually would, as an equal. You will say the wrong things at times and it will get emotional. Just make sure you are there. Relive good memories. They remind everyone why you’re close and may open opportunities for closure. You will cherish these conversations forever.

You can make a huge difference by:

• offering support

• showing respect

• listening and responding

• asking how you can help

Palliative care

Accepting that you need help can be difficult, but no one can deal with serious illness without it. Allow your loved one and their family to make the decision. Palliative care (pronounced pal-lee-uh-tiv) is offered by health care professionals and is focussed on providing relief from the symptoms and stress of a serious illness. The goal of Palliative care is to improve quality of life for both the patient and family. It manages your loved one’s health and their symptoms and side effects. The aim is to live each day as well as they can.

Le Domaine Care gives special focus to Palliative Care. Our team of on call doctors, nurses and caregivers are experienced and well respected. Versed in the latest medical practices, our team build custom routines according to each resident’s needs. We also go beyond the practicalities of medical help with counselling and support, ensuring the emotional wellbeing of our residents and their families.

If your loved one needs Palliative care, please book a consultation in person or over the phone. Let us help you through this challenging time, making the most of every day.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only option you have.